On Valentine’s Day Sr. Kayla Martinez loved her gifts from her boyfriend WO Grad. Angel Benitez. Martinez said, “He made me a wooden basket with chocolate inside shaped in a heart, a huge teddy bear, Hello Kitty face towels, Hello Kitty stuffy and pillow, Hello Kitty bouquet and a mini Ipad. It’s human nature to have a primary and secondary love language. It reflects how we give love and how we receive it. 

   There are five different love languages, and each has its own benefits. Instructor Lauren Robinson said, “Love languages give a lot of insight into how someone feels the love that someone else is intending to give.  Additionally, it can help someone understand how they normally share or show love to someone else and can help determine if a person might be receptive to that expression of love. It’s really a great way for someone to have a deeper understanding of themselves and others, as each person operates differently in regard to their expressions or receptions of love.”

Gift Giving: 

Individuals who resonate with this love language often appreciate the time and effort put into this special gift. It not only shows how much thought you placed in the gift but also how much you care to see a smile on your loved ones face.. The gifter and receiver both enjoy this act. Sr. Maya Loveless said, “I love giving gifts to people. It makes me feel so loved, and I love seeing people’s reactions. It makes me feel special, and I love how it makes other people feel special.” This feeling of affection positively uplifts one’s relationship.

Quality Time:

   Individuals with this particular love language value and appreciate your full time and presence. This could simply be having a conversation face-to-face with eye contact. Knowing that you’re able to be yourself with this person and get the chance to learn something new about them each day. WO Grad. Alexis Gonzales said, “I personally love spending time with loved ones. It reminds me I have a support system.” Taking the time to actively listen to what your loved one is emphasizing can support them in ways they need. This strengthens the bond you guys have together.

Physical touch:

Individuals with this primary love language tend to feel most loved and appreciated when they are physically interacting with others. This could mean a lot of small gestures, such as a hug, holding hands, a kiss, and cuddling. Jr. Addilyn Gail said, “I never used to like physical touch, but I have grown to love hugs and small gestures of touch. I like feeling comforted and knowing that there’s someone who values me the same as I value them.” This gesture of love can come in different types of forms but being able to connect with a loved one is mandatory for others.

Words of Affirmation: 

   This love language doesn’t just include words; it could be a message, a letter, or even a special way you communicate in expressing your love. Every human appreciates hearing positive comments, or compliments, and words of encouragement.. WO Grad. Emily Cruz said, “I love being told how loved I am, and receiving a small text every morning or a simple hi in the hall lights up my day!!” This could easily uplift your loved ones’ mood and help them feel more confident. 

Acts of Service: 

There are many endless examples you can do for your loved one to show them you appreciate them. Sr. Sydney Phanthavong said, “I always find myself doing something for any loved one. I like doing this because it makes me feel good that I did something I know they would like. I like showing love through actions.” This act causes us humans to be selfless and often put others before ourselves. It inspires us to return these special acts in different ways. 

   I’d highly encourage you to explore your own love languages so that you can see the difference it will make in fulfilling relationships. it will help you connect and ensure that the way they need love is appreciated. Love is given in many different ways. We may tend to focus on the way we give love and expect others to do the same. But that is not the case for everyone, nor the way they love. Always remember you are loved and important.