I should have five brothers here with me. As a result of two tragedies, I have three.
One brother’s death was an unavoidable tragedy. On April 10, 2013, my mom rushed into the hospital leaving me and my siblings at home with a family friend. The whole time I was worried for her and my baby brother, hoping everything was okay because he was coming too early. As my siblings got put down for bed, I stayed up because I had a feeling that there was something wrong. “ You should probably get to bed, your parents will be home in the morning” As I looked at my babysitter I responded with “ I can’t sleep so I’m staying up”. I was left alone for the rest of the night, but I soon fell asleep on the couch. I woke to the door opening and my mom just sobbing, but deep down I was wondering why she was crying without my brother in her arms. It felt like hours later waiting for my mom to explain what was happening. She came in and sat with me. I understood one thing she told me “ He didn’t make it”. I didn’t know at the age of 7 your body could go numb just like that. He had a condition where the body was very abnormal to the point he wouldn’t be able to survive on his own. It didn’t help that my mom smoked and drank, creating the unhealthiness of the pregnancy . To this day I visit his Urn and send him balloons on his birthday just as if he was still here with me today.
The other was the result of a choice. That choice still crushes me today. As my Grandma picked me and my brother up from school we began to talk about different things. As I said something about abortion to her she went quiet. Me and my brother both looked at each other wondering what was going on. Something was said by her that I never thought I would hear from her. “You have a sibling who was aborted” Confusion and shock filled my body. Did I hear her Right, before my mouth began to open “What”, except it wasn’t just me but my brother too. We had a sibling we lost and never knew about them. I was 17 so for 11 years my mom had kept that a secret from me and my siblings. All because she didn’t want another kid at that moment. So out of love the guy she was with agreed with her because he loved her and wanted her to stay. Deep down he wanted a family of his own. Knowing the fact I could have a sibling with me today, one where I could love and hug everyday hurts. That’s something you can’t reverse
Abortion access should be extremely limited. If there was a situation in which the mother was having trouble and the baby wouldn’t be able to survive outside the womb then there would be a reason for abortion. This should be left up to the family and doctors themselves but only if the baby cannot survive outside the womb. I personally also believe I can’t say much about that decision on that front due to the fact I didn’t have to experience that trial.
My feeling/belief on what I stated above is based on what I believed at a young age. An age where you don’t think about that stuff. Due to the fact of me going in and out of the foster care system. I saw many women crying due to the loss of their children, not being able to wake up and see their faces every morning till they were adults. Seeing the look on a very important person’s face when she got the answer on why she was having miscarriages and trouble starting a family. She was infertile so when she was pregnant they by no chance couldn’t make it till birth. When they offered abortion to her for the next time she quickly shut it down. She would never purposely kill her child because there could always be a chance. Today she adopted a boy and a girl having the family she wanted. With adoption, some families can have second chances. So no I don’t think it’s a correct way, that there are always other options than abortion.
The fetus is defined according to Google: “An unborn offspring that develops and grows inside the uterus (womb) of humans and other mammals”. To me, a fetus is something that should bring happiness to a mother. Where she knows everything to get ready for the baby. A fetus is something that is soon able to witness life. A fetus is something parents keep photos of on their fridges to brag to everyone that they are expecting a new part of the family. Something that thrives in daily life.
Restricting abortion access should be in every state where there should only be a time to do it when there’s an emergency. Not when you were careless about your actions and you either don’t want your parents to find out about it or the fact you just don’t want the responsibility of raising a human being for the rest of your life. So the solution for that is to have an abortion, to kill the baby inside of you.
This is my stance on abortion, it’s been like this for a while now. Having to lose a loved one just because someone made a mistake hurts. I don’t mean to offend anyone, I just want everyone to know why I stand against abortion.
