Point: Soulmates are real
“Two peas in a pod.”
“You’re the sun to my shine.”
“You’re the milk to my cookies.”
Definition
To argue the legitimacy of soulmates we first need to define a soulmate, a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.” The concept of soulmates has fascinated the human race for centuries. We see in Hollywood and fairytales that the idea of a prince charming or a knight in shining armor deeply heightens the hope for a romantic human experience. Anyone who has experienced soulmates firsthand can attest to a soul-tie connection that is almost inexplicable.
Soulmates give way to a deep emotional bond between two people that others can not relate to. It’s a private connection that allows the person to be the best version of themselves. With a soulmate words do not have to be spoken for communication to happen, the sense of belonging and security in a partner couples feel understood. People are scared to be vulnerable with their partners while on a soulmate connection, their partner is a safe haven. Soulmates don’t leave their partner to work on themselves, instead, there is a mutual growth of the pair. Soulmates understand they have their own identities but can assist their partner to achieve their goals.
Undeniable Attraction
Having a private connection between two people lies in the attraction from the moment the two met. It is as if two puzzle pieces came together to create the perfect picture. The pieces are made to fit together forever. There is automatically a sense of companionship and comfort that defies any logical explanation to immediate familiarity. Finding a soulmate is rare and almost one in a thousand; however, it is not impossible. Approximately 8% of couples are able to find this once-in-a-lifetime connection and stay together for over 60 years. “Everyone is different in their own ways so to find someone you can understand constantly and connect with seems difficult but still possible if you find the right person.” fresh. Tahyah Morales said.
Religious/Mythological Reference
Twin flames and divine partnerships have often been cited in the bible thirty-nine times. Biblical believers presume soulmates reflect the love of God and cement their soul ties through marriage. In Isaiah 34:16 “Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the Lord has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.” Even though soulmates are a moral debate, there is still evidence soulmates exist through multiple references. In Mark 10:7-9 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Even young teens today still believe in soulmates, “I believe god has chosen our soulmate.” Soph. Adam Bernet said.
Even in Greek Mythology the god Plato gave humans four arms and legs, however, Zeus split humans in half to punish our pride by having to look for our soulmates. Destiny is in control if you are able to find your soulmate or not. Most are hopeful for a chance to meet their soulmate and start a genuine connection.
Moral Standpoint
However, just because scientists can not prove a soulmate connection in a lab does not mean soulmates are a false conception. No one is certain what goes on in the human afterlife. Bigfoot, UFOs, and Aliens are concepts that humans have failed to prove to this day. Yet there is still hope and theories to prove it’s substantial.
Counterpoint: Soulmates do not exist
You’re my soulmate.
You complete me.
You are my missing part.
All lies that an individual will tell their partner. The reality is that soulmates do not exist.
People love to convince themselves that there is a person destined for them. That a person will waltz into their lives and they’ll live happily ever after. And people have every right to be hypnotized with an idea as such. Media depicts people making big grand gestures for their partners and love being amazing and almost magical. Even as a child, many people watch movies about princesses getting swooped off their feet and riding off into the sunset with a prince.
People need to remember that media and movies aren’t real. Love’s not easy. Love takes hard work, and compromise, and it doesn’t always work out.
Take for example the divorce rate in America, almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce or separation. So do 50% of soulmates don’t work out? If these marriages were ‘meant to be’, why didn’t they work?
‘Soulmates’ is just an idea humans romanticized. Relationships take commitment, require decision-making, need work, and can be hard. Soulmates are an idea that discounts all of this.
When someone says that a person is their soulmate, a picture is painted that the relationship was always easy, chosen for them, and will be successful no matter how much work the ones in the relationship put in. Saying a partner is your soulmate is almost an excuse to not make conscious decisions and put in the effort.
An argument is that people who don’t believe in soulmates haven’t found theirs. Which is false. From a survey handed out to West Ottawa students, multiple people in successful relationships with a partner still did not believe in soulmates. One even went so far as to say they “Never have felt a genuine real connection with anyone.”
When one rationally thinks about soulmates, the odds of finding the one person you’re supposed to be with are slim to none. Considering all 8 billion people in the world, one person is supposed to sift through all those people in 195 separate countries just to find the one person their soul is connected to.
One also has to take into account all other factors: finances, living situations, beliefs, and life span.
If a person doesn’t live in the same country as someone, doesn’t have the same beliefs, doesn’t have the finances to travel and meet new people, or even doesn’t live past their childhood, how are they supposed to find their soulmate?
And what happens if one never gets past these logistics? Do they and their soulmate just never find each other and never experience a true soul connection?
Morals are also a huge aspect of soulmates. But if morals are such a big part, why is cheating so common? 30-40% of cheating occurs in unmarried relationships and 18-20% of cheating occurs in married relationships. So where are these people’s morals when they’re cheating on their soulmates?
With all of these questions and information, a sensible person can conclude soulmates are not real. There are too many obstacles, lies, and infidelity. Love isn’t a lie, but a soul connection that is destined to be is a lie.
